Wednesday Treasures~Remembering Matthew

Hello Friends.  This may be a little different kind of post today.  You see, it is the 53rd birthday of our son Matthew, who is celebrating in heaven.  He's been celebrating there since May 25th, 2014...almost 12 years already, and that I can hardly fathom!

One of my favorite pictures of Matthew. I call it "Deer Matthew".

 The time really does fly, because in some ways it seems like it was just yesterday that he was still with us, celebrating his 41st birthday with our whole family.

This link tells more about that special birthday party, Matthew's 41st birthday, 

Matthew was enjoying his last birthday with all of the family there to celebrate with him.

I've been adding these links below to posts that I've written in memory of Matthew on his special birthdays since his passing, along with a few other special memories. I don't expect you to read all of these posts (unless you want to). I was trying to keep track of them for my own benefit.  Some of them may seem repetitive...I guess because,  sadly, there's no new news in Matthew's life to share.  So we cherish the wonderful memories that we do have and try to keep his memory alive in our hearts and minds.

Link to Matthew's 45th heavenly birthday (2018)

Link to Matthew's 49th heavenly birthday 

Link to Matthew's heavenly 50th birthday, which includes links to other posts about Matthew from his life.

Link to Matthew's 51st heavenly birthday

Link to Matthew's 52nd heavenly birthday

Link to "The Shaving Lesson", January, 2014

Link to Random Thoughts from a Grieving Heart, October 2014

Today we really didn't do anything special. I want to plant another rose bush in Matthew's memory, which hopefully will survive my lack of green thumb.  We may have to wait a little while, however, since we are still in a drought here.

I did go outside for a while and sat in the "Secret/Memorial Garden".  I had a little friend come and stay close to me...can you guess who it was?

Yep, Sweet Blackie...my trusty little companion...when I come outside he follows me around wherever I go...

Hello,  Blackie! You are looking very handsome today!

It was a beautiful day out in the garden...even if Still Waters Pond is still very very dry...

I walked down to the edge of the pond and looked around to where there should be water all around that "island" on the left side...I could probably walk all around it and maybe even across the pond, but I don't dare...the ground is very spongy and if my foot broke through, I would probably be up to my knees in muck. So, no thank you!

We dedicated this spot to Matthew after we moved here, because he loved ponds and fishing, and I know he would've loved it here...  

This picture was taken of Matthew on one of his trips down (from Maine) to visit us during those 4 years of battling cancer. Thankfully he was feeling well enough to go do some fishing while here on that particular trip...

These pictures were taken on the Ocklawaha River near the Eureka Bridge. (reference point for my memories).

And wonderfully, his brothers Scott and Benton were able to spend some time with him fishing while he was here...These are just some sweet memories I love to reflect on...

Back to the present:

Sadly the "Secret Memorial Garden" area is in need of a lot of work. But it's been So cold, and So dry...so maybe once the rains start up again I will be able to make this place look more like a garden again.

My poor swing is sinking down into the ground too...we need to do some repair work on it before I dare to "swing" in it again...

I was totally surprised to discover that the azalea bushes were starting to bloom!  That was a blessing and I consider it a gift...

Blackie enjoyed laying there on the ground next to my garden bench and it was as if he was sniffing the flowers and enjoying them...

He was also watching a bird somehwhere there in the area. I could hear it chirping in the distance. Thankfully Blackie didn't go searching for it.

Basically we spent a quiet day...our son Benton came over for a little visit while waiting for his truck to have some repairs  made to the AC system.  It's always wonderful when one of our kids comes over to visit.  I treasure those moments more and more as the years go by.  As we learned from our experience with Matthew, no one is granted immunity for sickness and troubles and sorrows in this life.  We must always be prepared for the possibility that at any time our soul might be required of us and we need to be ready to meet Jesus face to face immediately.  

I know Matthew was ready to go to heaven...he accepted Jesus as his Savior at an early age and lived his life as a devoted child of God.  He taught his son Noah all about the Lord from the time Noah was a baby...he made sure that he took the time to "train up (his) child in the way he should go, so that when he is old he will not depart from it..."(based on Proverbs 22:6). Matthew loved his wife Nicole and he honored his parents and lived an exemplary life...but most of all, he loved Jesus.  

Jesus promised that if we believe in Him, He would prepare a place for us in heaven, and that when the time is right, He will come and receive us to Himself so that we can be there with Him for eternity...

John 14:1-6  NKJV

1“Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. 

2 In My Father’s house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. 

3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also. 

4 And where I go you know, and the way you know.”

5 Thomas said to Him, “Lord, we do not know where You are going, and how can we know the way?”

6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. 

No one comes to the Father except through Me."

I have no doubt that Matthew believed this, and that he is with Jesus, enjoying whatever heavenly "mansion"  God has prepared for him.  He may even be helping build our mansions for when we go there some day. 

Tonight's Sunset...

Let's end this post on a happy "note"....I love this song "I'll Fly Away", here being sung by Reba McEntire and her family...and this is what I believe...

I’ll Fly Away

Some bright morning when this life is over

I’ll fly away

To that home on God’s celestial shore

I’ll fly away

Chorus:

I’ll fly away oh glory

I’ll fly away (in the morning)

When I die hallelujah by and by

I’ll fly away

When the shadows of this life have gone

I’ll fly away

Like a bird from these prison walls I’ll fly

I’ll fly away

(Chorus)

I’ll fly away oh glory

I’ll fly away (in the morning)

When I die hallelujah by and by

I’ll fly away

Just a few more weary days and then

I’ll fly away

To a land where joys will never end

I’ll fly away"

(Chorus)

I’ll fly away oh glory

I’ll fly away (in the morning)

When I die hallelujah by and by

I’ll fly away"

Happy Heavenly Birthday, Matthew! Some day we will "fly away" and be there with you..."Hallelujah By and By!"

Tuesday 4~ Grocery Shopping

 Grocery Shopping

Hello friends and welcome to Tuesday 4 in honor of Toni Taddeo.
Here are some questions for you on the topic of shopping.


1. Where do you like to buy your groceries and do you buy by the day, week or month?

We mostly buy our every day groceries at our local grocery store here in our little town. They have just changed ownership, and the new owners are improving things little by little.  We also pick up things like milk, bread and eggs at our nearby Dollar General, as it is right at the entrance to our neighborhood and very convenient to stop there as we come and go by it all the time.  For bigger items we often make a trip to the next city over, about 15 miles away, and go to Walmart.


2. What foods would we always find in your kitchen?

All the basics...milk, eggs, butter, bread, coffee, tea, canned vegies and beans and fruits, frozen meats, fresh vegies and lettuce and fresh spinach, cheeses, bologna and deli ham and hot dogs. Of course, also things like flour, sugar, rice, pasta, spices, all the basics for baking. Oh, and mayonnaise, mustard, ketchup, pickles, salad dressings. Also onions, potatoes, carrots, and cabbage are usually kept on hand.

3.Do you buy anything online and if so what kinds of things are you most likely to buy there?

I sometimes make an order to Walmart for larger items that can be delivered, or things they may not have at the local store. I also order some things on Amazon as needed.  

4. Do you shop with a list on paper, on your phone or do you just shop without a list and maybe come home with things you never planned to buy?

I make a written list and try to always remember to take it with me to the store. I especially use the list for things that we may have run out of that I don't buy every week, like laundry detergent or paper goods or items in the pharmacy section of Walmart.  I keep a magnetic notepad on the refrigerator that is used to write things down as we run out of them.

Bonus question: What will you be cooking in the coming week?

Good question! I do not necessarily plan meals ahead that much. I keep a variety of meats in the freezer when I see them on special, so that I have different things to choose from throughout the week. Then I discuss the meals with hubby to find out what he feels like having. Since it's usually just the two of us we can be pretty flexible, depending upon what our mood is! Tonight we had hamburgers. However, if the ground beef had not thawed out enough for hamburgers in time, I was going to use it to make either sloppy joes or a one pot dish that I can either thaw the meat in the microwave or in the pot as I cook it. Like I said, we are pretty flexible.  Thankfully hubby is not a real picky eater.  If I know we are going to have company (like the kids) here for a meal, then of course I plan a regular menu ahead...and often we put our food together to cover all the basics.

I know you already saw this picture in my last post from the anniversary party at Cook's Buffet on Saturday.  But I purposefully took a picture of this particular section of the salad bar because I was focusing on that congealed gelatin salad on the left front corner. No, I don't plan to make it this week, but I have made one similar for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas dinner before.

That is a cranberry/orange jello salad, with whole berry canned cranberry sauce, pecans, oranges and pineapple, and maybe some other things thrown in there too. I LOVE this salad, and I took a picture of it because I wanted to remember it. As I did so, I said out loud, "Nanny, this is for you!"  "Nanny" is my husband's mother, who of course is in heaven now...but years ago when we used to go to another one of these same restaurants together (when it was called "Holiday House"), she and I would always get this jello and talk about how much we loved it. We also both would always get the leg of lamb.  So, as I said in my previous post, going to this restaurant was a very nostalgic experience for me in so many ways.

Also, for all of you who asked in my last post if my sister Doris and I were "twins", well, no, we aren't. We are several years apart (and I am the baby, so don't go asking which one is older, okay? LOL!)  Here is how we looked 60 years ago at her wedding.  It's too bad this isn't in color, so you could tell that I was a redhead and Doris was a brunette.  I was about 5'8" and she was about 5'2".  Doris had a complexion that tanned nicely, whereas I would burn and freckle.  

L to R: Yours truly, Doris, Art, and our brother Clifford. Art was in the Army, and Clifford was in the Air Force. This was Feb. 11, 1966.

Doris and me. I was her Maid of Honor.

And here's how we looked as little girls...so you can really see we weren't twins.

Lto R: our brother Russell (R.I.P.), Clifford, Doris and me, "the little redhead". Our Dad and Mom on the back row. (R.I.P.) This was around 1953.

Somehow as we've aged we've just kind of melded together, and sometimes we scare each other by saying and doing the same things. 

And wearing the same outfits...

And automatically responding the same way to someone sneaking up behind us to take our picture while we were out for a walk with our Daddy...

That's our sweet Daddy in the middle of our silliness. 

And unbeknownst to us, we both wore the same outfit, (see below) even down to the white sweaters, at my son Matthew's wedding rehearsal party. That's our parents on either side of us, and Matthew is hugging his bride to be, Nicole, in the background, and Nicole's parents are sitting in front of us. This was way back in 1993...so many sweet memories.

Interestingly enough, (below) our brothers even got into the "act" of dressing alike now and then...again,  this was not planned...and sadly this photo was taken at my son Matthew's Celebration of Life in 2014, just 21 years after that happy occasion above. Little did we know then that in 2019 our brother Russell would also be entering heaven after a battle with leukemia:

So anyway, after all that, I just wanted you to know that we're still definitely not twins! LOL. Just sisters, with apparently some very similar characteristics...

Okay, that's enough silly stuff for this post.

You can join in the Tuesday 4 meme HERE, and also see what others are writing about.

Here's some words of wisdom from the book of Romans 15:5-6 for today:

"5 Now may the God of patience and comfort grant you to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus, 

6 that you may with one mind and one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ."

 

Special "Celebrations" and Blessings

 Good Sunday Morning...the First Sunday in Lent for 2026!  This first part of the post will be a "repost" from years past as a devotional reading for today.  Then I will follow up with some current events...

(This photo was taken in our previous neighborhood several years ago)

Good Morning!  As we continue along in our journey through the Lenten season in preparation for the remembrance of Christ's ultimate sacrifice on the cross on our behalf, I would like to revisit this post from many years ago.  Praying that it will be a blessing to you today as well...


Original Post 3/11/2011:

I love to sing the old hymns of the faith...and I want to keep them alive for future generations.  This morning in my devotional time with my husband, we focused on this old hymn as a prayer:

"Out of my bondage, sorrow, and night,

Jesus, I come, Jesus I come;

Into Thy freedom, gladness, and light,

Jesus, I come to Thee;

Out of my sickness into Thy health,

Out of my want and into Thy wealth,

Out of my sin and into Thyself,

Jesus, I come to Thee.

Out of my shameful failure and loss,

Jesus, I come, Jesus, I come;

Into the glorious gain of Thy cross,

Jesus, I come to Thee;

Out of earth's sorrows into Thy balm,

Out of life's storms and into Thy calm,

Out of distress to jubilant psalm,

Jesus, I come to Thee.

Out of unrest and arrogant pride,

Jesus, I come, Jesus, I come;

Into Thy blessed will to abide,

Jesus, I come to Thee;

Out of myself to dwell in Thy love,

Out of despair into raptures above,

Upward for aye on wings like a dove,

Jesus, I come to Thee.

Out of the fear and dread of the tomb,

Jesus, I come, Jesus, I come;

Into the joy and light of my home,

Jesus, I come to Thee;

Out of the depths of ruin untold,

Into the peace of Thy sheltering fold,

Ever Thy glorious face to behold,

Jesus, I come to Thee."

Written by William T. Sleeper, 1819-1904

Wow! Doesn't that hymn speak to you?  This is one of those songs that we often would sing as a prayer of commitment and surrender at the close of a church service.  Even though these words were penned by the composer over one hundred years ago, they are still applicable and powerful to me today.

During this Lenten Season, rather than focus on what you are giving up, why not consider what new insights you can glean from God's Word, the faithful messages found in the hymns of our faith, and other devotional writings as God leads you.  Then, share those thoughts with others throughout your day...whether by email, Facebook, notes written in cards, or by word of mouth in your conversations with friends and loved ones. If we could manage to share a word of encouragement and hope with another person each day, what a difference there would be in our world!

Have a glorious day...and give someone a real hug today.  God bless you real good! (((((HUGS)))))

Back to the present, Feburary 22, 2026...I love that picture of Jesus hugging that woman above, don't you? It makes me think of several things...one, how He holds us and cares for us now, during our times of sorrow and grief and pain, and secondly, how He will welcome us into heaven one day, when all of our sorrow and grief and pain will be over.  What a glorious day that will be!  This afternoon we will be celebrating the life of one of our dear friends from our church...(She's the one who made that beautiful shawl for me HERE).  She went to be with Jesus after her 2&1/2 year battle with cancer, and I can well imagine Kim being held in the arms of Jesus just like that as she entered heaven's gates. I am so happy for her, but very sad for her dear husband and parents and family. She will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved her.

On another happier note, yesterday we had a different kind of celebration...the celebration of my sister Doris' and her hubby Art's 60th wedding anniversary!  We gathered with friends and family at a wonderful restaurant about an hour and half's drive from us, but well worth the trip to be with family and celebrate this happy occasion!  Here's the pictures:

Art and Doris, 60 happy years of wedded "bliss"...

My sister Doris is wearing the antique lavalier necklace that belonged to our maternal grandmother. She also wore this at their wedding as "something old", and so did I and every other bride in our family since my mother inherited it from her mother. It's a "family tradition" that I love. Doris is the "keeper of the lavalier" nowadays, and someday she will pass it down to her daughter to be used in all future generations of brides marrying into our family.

Sisters!!

Family...too busy eating to show their faces! LOL.  I was very neglectful in getting everyone to look  up, and sadly we forgot to get a group photo of the whole family together...we were all too busy enjoying our dinner and time together!

Here's my part of the family...my hubby is appalled at this picture...sorry, honey, I caught you with your mouth full!  Oh, and Scott was unable to attend. He lives a bit too far away to drive this distance from his place and back.

And this is my hubby's brother Billy and his wife Peggy. 

This restaurant, "Cook's Buffet", in Deland, Florida, is well known for it's wonderful salad and vegetable bar and meat buffet, with choices of leg of lamb, roast beef, chicken, ham, etc., that they carve off the bone and serve you.

This is my plate... I had been looking forward to the leg of lamb ever since I knew we were going there. This restaurant used to be called "Holiday House", and there used to be a chain of them in central Florida when I was growing up.  Now there is just this one, but it is owned by the same people who founded it, and the food is all just like it was when I was a child and we used to go there with my grandparents years and years ago!  Here is the website, in case you want to know their history.

(website photo)

It was a very wonderful celebration of two dear people, and we give thanks to the Lord for their life and testimony of God's grace and love.

On our way back home we did a little journey down memory lane and took a little side trip to two places where we had previously lived while serving churches in that area.  I took pictures of the houses, but not the churches...here's the first one:

This is the Parsonage at First Baptist Church of Pierson, Florida, where we lived while serving at that church. That front porch is new since we lived there.

And this was a manufactured home we had "built" and placed on this lot in Whispering Pines, Georgetown, FL., while we served at another church nearby, Beulah Baptist in Fruitland, FL.

These were both homes during special seasons of our life, and we give thanks to God for the blessings He bestowed upon us and for the privilege of serving Him during that time.

Well, it's time to get a move on and get ready for church today. Retired now from the pastoral ministry, but still serving the Lord any way He leads us.

Here's some thoughts from Psalm 139 to consider for today's prayer...

"1  O Lord, You have searched me and known me.

2 You know my sitting down and my rising up;

You understand my thought afar off.

3 You comprehend my path and my lying down,

And are acquainted with all my ways.

4 For there is not a word on my tongue,

But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.

5 You have hedged me behind and before,

And laid Your hand upon me.

6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;

It is high, I cannot attain it.

23  Search me, O God, and know my heart;

Try me, and know my anxieties;

24 And see if there is any wicked way in me,

And lead me in the way everlasting."

Amen

The Secret Garden Chronicles: Waiting and Watching Updated for Lent 2026

Good Morning on this first Friday of Lent, 2026.  I haven't been out and about much this week due to all the previously discussed issues we were working through, so I don't have anything new to share today. Therefore, I decided to go back into the archives of previous years to see what I was writing about "Lent".  This particular post goes back to March 25, 2017, when we were still living in our home in the national forest and also where my "Secret Garden" orginated.  I hope you will enjoy this walk back to the Secret Garden with me..

Original Post 3/25/2017:

I bought this beautiful old antique bowl today at the local flea market....

with the idea of using it for a bird bath in the Secret Garden.  So, I've set it up here

And now I'm just sitting here waiting and watching to see if the birds will try it out.  They probably won't while I am sitting here...and where it is placed it can't be seen from the inside of the house...so I may have to rethink this plan.  It is so pretty...I do hope the birds will appreciate it!

Meanwhile, while sitting in the garden my attention was drawn to Lamentations 3:22-26, which speaks a bit about watching and waiting:

22.  "Through the Lord's mercies we are not consumed.

Because His compassions fail not.

23.  They are new every morning;

Great is Your faithfulness.

24.  'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul,

'Therefore I hope in Him!'

25.  The Lord is good to those who wait for Him,

To the soul who seeks Him.

26.  It is good that one should hope and wait quietly

for the salvation of the Lord."

What are we waiting for?

We are waiting for God's mercies and compassions...

they are new every morning.

We hope in the Lord..

We wait for His goodness,

because He is good to those who wait for Him...

We wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord...

In verses 40-41, as we sit and wait on the Lord:

40.  "Let us search out and examine our ways,

and turn back to the Lord;

41.  Let us lift our hearts and hands 

to God in heaven."

If we already know the Lord, we have nothing to fear...but it is good to take time to examine our hearts and repent of any lack of trust, lack of faith, and lack of honesty before the Lord. Let Him cleanse our hearts anew and refresh our spirits so that we are able to worship Him in spirit and in truth.

This is a wonderful time...during the Lenten season leading up to Easter...to prepare our hearts for renewal and revival.

I noticed that one of our local churches is having a revival this week...and I wondered in my mind, "Do people still go to revivals?"  And if they do, who goes...the "sinners" or the "saints"?

It's been a long time since I attended a true revival, and it seemed as though only the "saints" were there...but guess what?  A lot of "saints" recognized that they were also "sinners", and there was a lot of soul searching and repenting going on.  So, I guess a revival is a good thing for both the saints and the sinners...we never know when a "lost sheep" will come home to Jesus and be saved...and perhaps there might be some sheep who truly needs to make things right with the Lord as well.

So I'm praying for this church and its revival services. May the Lord do a mighty work that overflows into our whole community, resulting in a true revival where hearts are changed and souls are saved.

While sitting there reflecting on the words of the prophet Jeremiah, the author of Lamentations, 

I couldn't help but start singing this favorite old hymn:

Great Is Thy Faithfulness

1 “Great is Thy faithfulness,” O God my Father,

There is no shadow of turning with Thee;

Thou changest not, Thy compassions, they fail not

As Thou hast been Thou forever wilt be.

Refrain:

“Great is Thy faithfulness!” “Great is Thy faithfulness!”

Morning by morning new mercies I see;

All I have needed Thy hand hath provided—

“Great is Thy faithfulness,” Lord, unto me!

2 Summer and winter, and springtime and harvest,

Sun, moon and stars in their courses above,

Join with all nature in manifold witness

To Thy great faithfulness, mercy and love.

Refrain

3 Pardon for sin and a peace that endureth,

Thine own dear presence to cheer and to guide;

Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow,

Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside

Refrain

Amen!

Oh How Great is the faithfulness of our Lord!!! Yes, we who know the Lord are truly blessed with all that we have ever needed...and beyond!  May we watch and wait for Him every day with hope and faith!  

Back to the Secret Garden....after waiting all that time to see if the birds would try out the new bird bath (note the pictures of the birds above...they were all watching and waiting for me to leave)...I decided to go back inside, but I moved the birdbath to a location where it could be observed from inside the house.

And then I came in the house and started writing this into the computer...and it wasn't long before my attention was brought back to the window...

And there was Mr. Catbird...taking a drink from the new bird bath.  I had put a smaller bowl of water inside the large one, which is also filled with water,  in case the birds were fearful of the deep bowl.  After he took a drink from this one, he then flew over to the other smaller birdbath that is in the garden:

And there he sat and took a bath...even though it sits a little cockeyed.  Then Mr. Cardinal also came and drank from this birdbath:

And so I decided to go back out and take out the smaller bowl from the new birdbath and lower the water level a little bit to see if they will try it out that way.

I'll keep watching and waiting!

Meanwhile...

May your day be filled with the joy and blessing of the Lord!!

For another post on this topic, click HERE

Back to the Present, 2/20/2026:

In case you are wondering whatever happened to that beautiful bowl, well, I rescued it from the Secret Garden before something bad happened to it. The birds never did take to it like I hoped they would, so it came back inside and now, at this house where we moved to from that particular house, it resides beside our bed on my hubby's nightstand:

It actually serves a good purpose for him in that he can roll up his extra smaller throw blankets and put them them there to grab during the night if needed. (no picture of that).   

And meanwhile, as we wait for the return of our Lord...let us not grow weary...

Isaiah 40:31 KJV

"31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; 

they shall mount up with wings as eagles; 

they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint."

Amen.

Have a blessed day!