Following a short but relaxing "nap" on this warm Sunday afternoon, I sat down to have a cup of tea and eat a blueberry bran muffin left over from breakfast, and selected one of my collection of "tea-room" books from my dining room bookshelf to peruse. My eyes were drawn to a book that I have had in my little library for over thirty years, entitled Be My Guest, written by Vivian Anderson Hall.
I found this book back when my husband and I first went into the ministry, and I thoroughly devoured it then and have referred to it many times throughout the years. I believe I even taught a class to a group of women in our church at one time, hoping to encourage them to participate in a ministry of hospitality. (It didn't work). Why didn't it work? Because like the women Mrs. Hall described in her book, most women thirty years ago...and still today...have the mistaken idea that practicing hospitality is a "gift", and that they don't have that particular "gift". But according to God's Word, hospitality is not listed as a spiritual gift, but as a command. (see Romans 12:9-13)
We all use similar excuses, and I am guilty of the same:
- The house is dirty
- I have to work
- I'm too tired
- We are just too busy
- I can't afford to have company
- Maybe after I get this done...or fix that, or my house is perfect...
- No one would want to come all the way out here to my house...
- I don't have room
- That's not my gift
Now that we have moved to a larger house...even though it is way out in the woods, I am looking forward to many such occasions of laughter and joy and true fellowship with loved ones and friends...and maybe a few strangers (angels?) mixed in. We've already had a few such gatherings, and yes, it was a lot of work...but I love how people always pitch in and help by bringing food, setting the table, washing the dishes, and generally cleaning up. I also love how they linger a while and visit, and how they love to come in the kitchen with me while I'm getting things ready or putting things away...and how they enjoy walking around and looking at the flora and fauna outdoors, or admiring the little things that make our home special to us.
Our home is not magnificent or fancy...some may even think it a bit "campy", but it is comfortable and homey...and there is a lot of love and laughter here to pass around. I hope that someday perhaps you will come, and to quote Vivian Anderson Hall,
"Be My Guest"
Be My Guest, written by Vivian Anderson Hall, published in 1979 by The Moody Bible Institute of Chicago, ILL |
I feel the same way about having friends and family over. It's always worth the effort!
ReplyDelete(I recognize that saucer in the picture!)
Love, Sandy
Oh Sandy, I wish you and your family (all of them) were close enough to come be my guest someday. Maybe you will? That would be so wonderful! Yes, you are a girl after my own heart! Wish I could come be YOUR guest too!!
DeleteThe saucer is a replica of one that came from Grandma's house, but I had this one already in my own collection of Currier and Ives dishes. Grandma's had too many cracks in it to survive. But this still reminds me of her. The cup was a Christmas gift from Debbie!
Y'all come, y'hear? :)
Love,
Aunt Pam
Looks like a wonderful place to visit and rest to me. And I can imagine that you are a super thoughtful hostess!
ReplyDeleteThank you Susie! Too bad that we can't leap through the internet hoops and get together! We'd have to get Dawn from RI to come on down and join us as well. We'd have such fun. I'd love to practice my hospitality skills with you! :)
DeleteYep! I've got all those excuses down pat! I pray for the day that I don't feel I need those excuses anymore!
ReplyDeleteMe too...praying for you. Although you know we had a wonderful time at your house last Thanksgiving and Christmas! Everything was beautifully decorated and looked like a holiday showroom! You have such a gift for decorating and making things look so festive. I wish I had your flair for decorating! So don't underestimate yourself! You have many wonderful hospitality gifts...a wonderful cook and baker (I love your apple pies you know!) Hang in there...you CAN do this!! Love, your Big little sister!
DeleteI have always thought I had reasons, not excuses. Our house is too small for a lot of company.and the others you named.
ReplyDeleteWe don't always have to have a lot of company to practice hospitality. Oftentimes one on one visits are much more satisfying for both the guest and the hostess. Just chatting over a cup of tea or coffee with a friend or neighbor is such a delight. That may be your forte'...I would love to sit down with you sometime and just get acquainted. I love the name "Quietspirit"...I need that!
DeleteGod's blessings to you today.