"Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil!" Ephesians 4:26
If I could give one piece of advice to any newly married couple it would be exactly that verse...if more couples could heed the wisdom of that one verse and practice it in their homes, how many marriages and homes could have been saved? I know there are always exceptions and people who are just downright evil and mean and cruel...so I cannot give this advice to someone who has been trapped in an abusive situation...but to the normal everyday couple...if they would just try to practice this advice...kiss and make-up before your eyes shut for the night...even if you have to settle the issue the next day...at least agree to love one another in peace and let God bring needed rest and healing to your hearts throughout the night. It is amazing how much clearer and better your thoughts are in the morning.
I am not some "Pollyanna" who thinks just wishing and thinking good thoughts can make it so...but I do believe in the power of love and prayer. Commit your way to the Lord...give your heartaches to Him each night...even if your spouse refuses to agree or change...YOU do your part! Don't give way to stubbornness...for stubbornness gives way to unforgiveness and hard-heartedness. Give God a chance to work in YOUR heart and mind first...and then see if He doesn't do something about your spouse's mind and heart as well! Try it...pray about it...and see what God can do.
Yes, our marriage has been a real "institution"....sometimes a "funny farm", sometimes a war-zone, sometimes a place where angels fear to tread...but underneath it all,
"The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms..." Deuteronomy 33:27
That's the only secret to success in marriage I can offer...Make God your refuge...and rest in His everlasting arms...and no matter what befalls you...you will have a safe resting place...no matter what.
|Mr. and Mrs. John F. Steiner|
August 16, 1969 -The Honorable Institution of Marriage...
Good Night, Sleep tight...and don't let the bedbugs bite!!