What Do You See Outside YOUR Open Window Today?

What Do You See Outside YOUR Open Window Today?
Remember: "When God closes a door, He always opens a window!" You never know what might be out there waiting for you!

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

The Second Chance...

  • "Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things.  See how great a forest a little fire kindles!" James 3:5
  • "And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell." James 3:6
  • "For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind." James 3:7
  • "But no man can tame the tongue.  It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison." James 3:8
  • "With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God." James 3:9
  • "Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so." James 3:10
Enuff Said!

Well, maybe...I always have a few things to add...

People who have known me most of my life will tell you "lovingly" that I have a propensity for opening my mouth and inserting my foot.  It's called "putting my mouth in motion before I put my brain in gear."  It's also known as not thinking before speaking...and it can get me into a lot of trouble!  That is one reason why I have taken up writing...my computer has a "delete" button...my mouth does not!  I can write something here and go back and look at it and re-read it and think about it before I push the "publish" button on my blog page.  I honestly do try to do that religiously...proofread, check for typos, check for spelling errors, and most of all...check for how honestly and kindly I have spoken in word and print.  Sometimes things slip through the cracks...I get in a hurry to get it finished and published so I can get to bed.  I hate to leave something unfinished to complete in the morning...I'm always afraid I will lose the "moment" and won't be able to complete the writing with the same fervor with which I started it.  But I am always thankful when I re-read something I've written and don't feel embarrassed by what I see in print.

Last night I made a mistake.  I spoke too quickly without thinking, partly in jest, but without weighing the possible ramifications and consequences that could happen by inflicting these remarks upon the heart of someone I love.  As soon as the words escaped my lips I knew I had said the wrong thing and that a barbed arrow had stricken the heart of my child. I could not recapture my words...the damage was done, and my son was gone...out the door...for a ride in his car...to escape before the hurt and anger my careless words had incited could flare up and respond back to me with fury.

When the full impact of what I had said and how it was taken hit me, I immediately repented in "dust and ashes"...but all that I could see was the dust stirred up by his retreating vehicle. Repeated attempts to call him on his cell phone elicited no response.  I knew I had made a horrible mistake. So all I could do was pray...pray to God confessing my error, asking forgiveness from God, and also asking God to help my son find forgiveness for me somewhere in his heart.  As I paced back and forth in my yard I pleaded to God to give me another chance to tell him how sorry I was...I prayed for his safe return and an opportunity to confess my mistake and ask for his forgiveness.  You can only imagine how grateful I was when I saw his car returning up the road a few minutes later.  Even though he was not quite ready to talk about it right away, after a few minutes he opened his door to me and let me back into his heart.  We had a wonderful mother-son talk, and cleared the air about things that were troubling him and me as well. It was a happy ending, with tears from both of us, and hugs and forgiveness.  Thank you, Jesus, for this second chance!

This morning my son left for his 40 minute commute to his job up the interstate highway.  He was in good spirits and I knew that everything was back to normal between us.  As he went out the door I told him to have a safe trip and that I loved him. He said he would be careful as always, and that he loved me too. 

Thirty minutes later he called us on his cell phone, crying and scared. He had just been in an accident. He was okay, his car was damaged but not totally destroyed as far as he could tell, but another vehicle involved in the accident did not fare as well...the driver of that vehicle was killed instantly when his van rolled and flipped and literally flew over my son's car and landed on the other end of it in the swamp alongside the highway.  My son jumped out of his car, unhurt, and called to the other vehicle, but there was no response. It was a horrible, grisly scene.  My son was alive...but someone else's son was not. 

Tonight I am praying for the mother and father and possible wife or children of that man, who remains unknown to us. My son was restored to me safe and sound...and with a second chance to live his life.  This other man was not given another chance.  I can only pray that he had left his home this morning with nothing left hanging between himself and his loved ones...or his Savior. I pray that tonight he his safe in the arms of Jesus...and that God Himself is comforting his family and undergirding them with His love and strength.

Tonight I will hug my son again and tell him how much I love him, and how thankful I am that God has spared his life for whatever purpose He desires.  I will again thank the Lord for giving me a second chance to repent and be forgiven for words spoken in haste.  I will think before I speak again...and pray before I put my mouth in motion.  I may not get another chance next time.


  1. Wow, I know first hand how life can change in an instant. I always tell the people I love how I feel about them...friends included....you just never know!

    I Love you, Uncle John and your boys! oxoxoxoxxo

  2. Dear Debbie, I know you know that road oh too well...and thankfully your story has a happy ending as well...but such a terribly close call. We love you, Darrell, and your whole family too. You are very special and precious to us.Love Aunt Pam.

  3. Wow,scary! We struggle thru and fight this thing called DSRCT and sometimes, I think, even now forget the absolute fragility of life. This man, this unknown man who lost his life alongside the road will be in my thoughts. I pray his family finds peace and comfort. I know how hard that is to find!

  4. Kirsten, we are all walking a very fine line between life on earth and eternity...my son is struggling with the fact that this man actually tried to avoid hitting him and went out of control and lost his life in the process. This has been extremely traumatic for him...but not without it's purpose. Every life, whether we live to a ripe old age, or whether we are called home way too early like your sweet Rhema, every life has a purpose beyond what we can begin to understand or imagine from our finite minds. There is so much more going on in and around us than the human eye can see or our minds can fathom. But I know one thing for certain, whether we understand it or believe it, God IS in control. His ways are higher than our ways...and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9) I comfort myself with those thoughts when I think about my son Matt, who has DSRCT, and your Rhema, and now my son Scott who is grieving over this trauma and trying to figure out why his life was spared and the other man's was not. It all comes back to TRUST...trusting the One Who died for me that I might live.
    You are in my prayers as you continue to walk in this journey of grief and sorrow. May the Lord continue to wrap His loving arms around you and comfort you and most of all CARRY you in the days ahead, and give you the strength to stand again. Amen.


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